Does the “Maid” replace the “Mom”?

A new trend is appearing in the Jordanian Family Culture; where "Maids" are started to be seen accompanying most of the families in the Malls, Vacations, and even Restaurants. You see the "Maid" hugging the "Child", feeding him and taking care of him, and his "Mom" is sitting or shopping not even caring a bit about her own "Child." The "Maid" is running after the "Child" to ensure that he or she is not going to get hurt, and if the "Child" accidently fell on the ground (and who doesn't?!), it is a "click" for the "Mom" to start her motherhood role: scream at the "Maid" to pay better attention at the "Child". What a fantastic role she is holding!

I remember "Mom" at the past, where she spent almost 95% of her time dedicated for her "Child", making sure that the lunch is ready when he comes home after school, or his clothes are tidy and clean, or even the smell of a Cake is taking over the whole home. Nowadays, the "Maid" is preparing the sandwiches for school, waiting for the "Child" to come from school, serving him the lunch, giving him a bath, and plays with him, and maybe the "Child" sleeps before his "Mom" gets to see him before.

I'm not against the concept of the "Maid" if used properly. Maids can be of great assistance to the "Mom" especially if she is a working one. The "Maid" can spare the "Mom" the time of cleaning the house for example, while the "Mom" is spending the Quality Time the "Child" needs. Unfortunately, this concept is comprehended somehow wrongly by some "Mom", where they allowed the "Maid" to perform all the tasks associated with the most sacred full-time job anyone have: being a "Mom."

Seeing this a lot lately, made me call it a trend, and most importantly, made ask myself and in loud: Does the "Maid" replace the "Mom"?

My Kids Hate to Sleep

I don't know why Kids nowadays hate to sleep. My wife and I spend almost one to two hours on daily basis just trying to getting them sleep. My daughter - Jude, turned to be the MASTER in making up excuses before going to bed. "Mummy, I need to drink", "Mummy, why is it so dark outside? I don't like to sleep now, let's make it till it is sun again", Can you believe it?!

Three months ago, Allah has blessed us with a new family member to complete the variety of the group; a baby boy we named Mutaz. Mutaz started his life like any baby, drinks milk and sleeps. This trend lasted for almost two and a half months. However, everything has an end! He takes his bath, gets milk, laughs and plays, and gets his diaper changed. The whole preparation for any baby is complete now. What is left then. The answer is to go to sleep. But NO! He like to stay awake! He learned the full lesson from his sister and tries his best to beat her out.

Guess what, a three-month-old baby refuses to sleep outside his home, and insists to sleep on his very own crib. Sometimes we feel he is going to talk and order us to get back home and place him in his bed.



The issue is; that just right after they go to sleep, I miss them so much and start kissing them trying to spend the lovely time they have while they are asleep. I'm going crazy, ain't I? What can I say; there is something strange about kids that pulls the sanity out of you: it keeps crazy about them and crazy from them.

But what Can I say, we love them so much that we have to go through this cycle EVERY day.